Boundaries are inescapable: they’re the physical, mental, digital, emotional, environmental, spiritual and cultural constructs that create a framework which underpins and influences how we behave, our expectations on how those around us might behave, what we take responsibility for, what others take responsibility for, what we let in and what we keep out, and the relationship we have with ourselves and everything around us.
It might not be a concept we’re familiar with nor might we know what sorts of things might soothe us, but at times when we feel particularly anxious or distressed, self-soothing can be a useful part of our mental health toolkit.
Depression comes with a variety of symptoms, which vary for person to person. Although it’s not often talked about, many people who suffer from depression struggle with urges to self-harm.
Panic attacks can be exhausting and draining. After a panic attack, it’s important to look after ourselves and to ramp up the self-care after going through such a difficult experience.
We’re able to feel empathy and compassion for those who are in physical pain, even if we’ve not experienced that exact physical pain ourselves. We can appreciate that a broken leg must hurt like hell, that childbirth must be excruciating and we can even muster up compassion for those who are heartbroken – despite not being able to ‘see’ the pain THEY feel.
So, why then, is depression so different?