What is Self-Care?
At Blurt, we’re always harping on about self-care. We understand how important it is, but also how bloomin’ tricky it can be.
Self-care is far from easy. When our self-worth is on the floor, making time to nurture ourselves feels like an unnecessary effort. We tell ourselves we don’t need it, and we don’t deserve it. That it’s pointless and self-indulgent. That it’s selfish.
But self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential. We can’t do or be all the things we want to without taking care of ourselves. A car can’t keep driving forever without some kind of maintenance – regular fuel top-ups, service, MOT and repairs. We’re exactly the same.
Of course, we may feel resistance around practising self-care. We’ve spent so long telling ourselves we’re unworthy, that showing ourselves kindness feels extremely discomforting. We may also find that as we make building self-care into our lives, some of the people around us seem unsettled too. Change can be uncomfortable for us all – but that doesn’t mean it’s not necessary.
On this page we share information and resources to help you on your self-care journey. We hope it inspires you to make positive change. Because – whatever your head may say – you *are* worthy, and you do deserve better.
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” - Audre Lorde
Self-care is depression’s nemesis. When we practice self-care, we’re acting in opposition to depression’s demands.
But even when we’re raring to go, self-care can feel overwhelming. While it’s talked about a lot, many of us are still not quite clear what it is. We may be unsure about how to start building it in our lives – or indeed where to start.
It doesn’t help that what counts as self-care differs from person to person – what helps one of us, might leave another of us cold. And on top of that, as we grow, change and develop, our self-care needs change too. Self-care never stops being a work in progress – but it is so worth the effort. We just need to take it one step at a time.
At Blurt, we’ve published a number of blog posts on self-care topics, which you’ll find below. They range from the foundations of self-care (what it is and why it matters), to deeper dives into specific types of self-care. We hope they’ll help you find your self-care groove.
WHY SELF-CARE MATTERS
Self-care is one of the key tools in our armoury for combating depression, so it’s important we make it a priority. Here’s why it matters.
SELF-CARE ON A BUDGET: 10 THINGS TO TRY
While spa days and shopping sprees are undoubtedly expensive, there are many other acts of self-care that cost very little or are in fact free.
The A-Z of Self-Care
Self-care is essential for everyone. It doesn’t need to be expensive, or fancy – sometimes the basics of day-to-day life count as self-care.
No-Nonsense Self-Care Ideas
There a misconception that self-care isn’t for everyone. Self-care often comes with connotations of being very girly and fluffy, but it doesn’t have to be.
Depression: Habits That Help Us Through
While we can’t magically make depression go away, there are healthy habits we can adopt that might help ease the pain.
19+ IDEAS FOR SELF-CARE
If you’re supporting someone with depression, you may feel useless.
You’re not useless, there are many ways you can help.
Depression: Coping With Disrupted Sleep
Disrupted sleep is a common side effect of depression. It can cause us to sleep too much, too little, or wake in the night. Here are some things we can try to help.
Depression and Exercise
It’s one thing knowing that exercise is good for us, physically and mentally, but actually doing it when we’re fighting depression… Well, that’s a whole different ball game.
Depression: How to Be A Friend To Ourselves
Self-care and self-compassion are vital in helping us manage depression, but it’s hard to be kind to ourselves when we have horrible thoughts constantly circling round our head.
Depression: Straightening Out Those Wonky Boundaries
We all have personal boundaries: physical, emotional and mental limits we establish that let others know they can treat us, and what they can expect from us.
Depression: Foods that Boost Mood and Energy
The foods we eat play a vital role in both our physical and our psychological health. Making positive nutritional choices can make a real difference to our overall wellbeing.
Depression: How and When To Ask for Help
Depression can be a very lonely and isolating illness. Getting support from others can help keep us going. However, it can be hard to know when and how to reach out for help.
“Self love is asking yourself what you need – everyday – and then making sure you receive it.” - Unknown
We wrote a book: The Self-Care Project
Everything you need to know about self-care; what it is, why it’s important, why it’s such a struggle and how to integrate it into day-to-day life.
The Self-Care Project is for those who have been feeling off-kilter for a while but have not been able to put the finger on the ‘why’. It is a no-nonsense, practical journey to help you do just that. It’ll walk you through the case for self-care (why it’s so darn important), why it isn’t selfish at all, help you explore what self-care means for you, what your obstacles might be and provide advice on how to chisel out daily space for self-care in a practical, achievable and realistic way.
Our self-care starter kit
We’ve put together a free kit to help you get your self-care mojo back.
The kit includes the following:
What is self-care? And why is it so important?
5 instant self-care things which can be done from your bed
Self-care alphabet – beaking it down into teensy tiny bites
Looking after yourself on a budget
Caring for yourself from the inside out
Self-care worksheet – to help you discover what self-care looks like for YOU
Planning, finding your tribe, and pom-pom shaking
An utterly useful self-care planner
We’re all juggling lots of balls and self-care is often the one we drop first. When we schedule self-care into our lives, it helps us to prioritise it.
We collaborated with the awesome Stacie Swift to bring you these free printable self-care planner pages, which are also available to purchase in our shop. They help us to foresee obstacles and to plan around those, so that self-care becomes a non-negotiable.
Join our live Twitter Chats: #blurtchats
On the 2nd Tuesday, of every month, we’ll be live on Twitter at 8pm (GMT) to facilitate a conversation about topics related to mental health, including self-care.
Anyone with a Twitter profile can join in the conversation. And because it’s live, the hope is that it’ll be a buoyant hour which will be jam-packed with discussion, connection, advice-sharing and empathy.
Join our #365daysofselfcare challenge
We started this challenge just over a year ago and it’s been absolutely amazing to see how committed people have been to partaking in one act of self-care, however micro that moment or action might be, every single day.
That’s not the only thing that’s warmed our cockles; you’ve been championing one another, sending out virtual high-fives, finding your tribe AND reminding us to keep at it. Yay!
We shake our pom poms of encouragement
We *so* understand how tough it all is; not just this self-care thing, but living with depression, ball juggling, and life in general.
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"Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend." - Kristin Neff
We're in this together
The ‘self’ part of ‘self-care’ implies that it’s a lonesome job, but it’s truly not. Self-care is also about our connections and boundaries with others, and that includes working to make sure they’re not of the fortress-type; the ones that don’t allow the help and good stuff in. It’s also about setting up support systems and knowing when to reach out for help. It’s about building those communities where we can lean on one another and support one another, rather than trying to do, and be, everything.
We truly are all in this together.
Love and hugs,
The Blurt Team <3