Depression is an insidious illness. At its very worst, it can take lives. Every year, more than 800,000 people of all ages and walks of life die by suicide. Up to 25 times as many people make suicide attempts, and countless more experience suicidal thoughts. Depression is very often a factor in these cases.
For those of us experiencing thoughts of suicide, we’re not always sure what to do, or where to go, for help.
In this resource page we hope to build awareness and understanding about what it can be like to live with suicidal feelings. We also provide resources and information that may help in crisis situations.
““Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” - Seneca
Understanding Suicidal Feelings
Suicide is a public health issue that is massively misunderstood.
The most common misconception about suicide is that it isn’t preventable. That suicidal people ‘just want to die’.
Most suicidal people don’t want to die, we want the pain we experience to stop. The weight of that pain becomes unbearable. It feels as though we’re out of options.
The stigma around suicide – the idea that suicidal urges make us selfish, ungrateful or broken beyond repair – prevents us from reaching out. We feel completely isolated. We’re too ashamed to seek help.
At Blurt, we’re big believers of the power of empathy. We know that if we can see things from other peoples perspective – if we can walk in their shoes for a moment, hear their thoughts, feel their feelings – we can better understand their actions and behaviour. And when we can emphasise with someone, it’s easier to help them.
Below we share a couple of posts that describe how it feels to live with suicidal feelings. We also share ways you can help someone in crisis.
Depression: When We Have Thoughts of Ending it All
Thoughts about ending it all can be all consuming, we want them to stop. We know that we have lots to live for, but depression is an irrational illness.
Depression: Living With Dark Thoughts And Urges
When we have depression, we often have to cope with dark thoughts and urges. Living alongside them is overwhelming, exhausting and at times very scary.
Helping Someone Who Is Suicidal
Around 20% of people in the UK experience suicidal thoughts at some point in their lifetime. Here’s what we can do to help someone who is in danger.
“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.” – Juliette Lewis
Words that may help
When we’re in crisis it can be hard to think straight.
We’re overwhelmed: by our pain, by our emotions, by the thoughts circling in our heads. Our brains may tell us that ending it all is the only answer. That harming ourselves is the only way we’ll get the pain to stop.
Our brains are lying. There is always another answer. We may feel hopeless, but we’re not beyond help. We do have the power to get through this.
If you’re struggling with dark feelings right now, the posts below may help.
WANT TO END IT ALL? PLEASE READ THIS.
You are not broken. You are not a failure. You are not a problem. You are a person who is hurting. You are a person who deserves love, help, and support.
7 Ways To Distract Yourself From Scary Thoughts
Self-harming urges are a common symptom of depression and can be very powerful. Here are seven tactics to try to help distract from scary thoughts.
In Crisis? These 12 Actions Can Help
Sometimes our depression may lead us to struggle with suicidal thoughts and feelings. However dark things seem, there are actions we can take to help.
“You just keep living, until you feel alive again.” – Jennifer Worth
Print off a Crisis Card template to use in emergency situations.
Create your own personalised Crisis Plan to help you through tough times.
If you are in crisis, please seek help. There are people who can – and want – to help.